Islam and the friendly / fraternal bonds
Man is equipped with certain instincts. One of these is art instinct if issues including is friendship and social contact. Allah (swt) who created mankind has sent a complete life system; Islam, which of course also provides answers to questions about friends, friendship and social circle. In Islam is there a great similarity between friendship and fraternity. Brotherhood will here be used in a general understanding of the relationship brother-brother and sister-sister.
A society consists primarily of individuals with a common set of emotions, thoughts, as well as a prevailing system. If the individuals who constitute society, have acquired the Islamic philosophy (aqeedah), Islam's vision of friendship and the principle of al walaa wal Baraa (love and hate for the sake of Allah), then the whole society be a strong and successful societies, as in the time of the profets, sahaba and sahabiyat sacrificed themselves for each other, wanted Islam against each other (that called for the good and prohibiting evil), would each other what they wanted for themselves, and in the degree felt strongly and tamper-proof tape to each other.
A kufr based (kufr: Non-Islam) friendship is often built on the basis of interests and will cease as soon as those interests are either achieved or changed. Therefore it is often friendships cease as soon as a person convert to Islam, since that he has suddenly changed interest from clubs and drinking parties, to Juma and dawah (call to Islam). A vivid illustration of the relationship between friends / interests can also be seen clearly in the light of the then British Prime Minister, Lord Palmerstone, who said that England had no permanent friends, but had only permanent interests. In other words, it is a kufr friendship based on the individual's benefit and the benefit. Life's purpose is to seek the satisfaction of Allah.
Because Allah says:
"And I've only created Jinan and people for them to worship and serve Me" [51:56]
Therefore, we must strive for us, under ANY circumstances, to achieve this purpose, even when it comes to selecting a close friendship, and the relationships.
Election of friendship
It is said in a Hadith: "A person has a tendency to follow his friend's faith, so be careful whom you treat". When you choose your friends, then do it from their Imaan (belief) and the degree of respect to Allah and the Prophet's orders and prohibitions. And we must take a distance from those who do not relate to Islam and base their ideas and concepts of kufr, as they undoubtedly will affect us in a negative direction, if we treat them and take them as close friends. On the other hand does not mean we should take a total distance of them, but we must take our measures against them, and of course, treat them with respect and a good tone among them, just as Islam dictated. The people should be aware that rejection of them caused by the false ideas and concepts they bear (which is based on kufr), and if there is talked about non-Practicing Muslims, they must be aware that rejection was because of their Haram actions.
Islam came to spread itself, which is why dawah to these people is an important priority. Muslims must therefore do its best to influence and not even be affected. If there are no positive results, we must therefore take a moderate form of distance, since it is reported in a well-known Hadith, that if you are with a people in 40 days, then you will either become just like them, or take a distance from them. It is also said in Hadith that:
"The good and the bad friend can be compared with perfume seller and a smith with a blow pods. Thus, perfume seller either sells you a good perfume or scents something good from him. But the blacksmith is blowing a blow bellows would either burn your clothes; otherwise you'll get a bad smell from him. ”
And Allah (swt) warns of friendships which may lead us into hell:
"If only I had not took him as a close friend. He led me astray from the message (Islam), after it had come to me. "[25:27-28]
Currently, it is unfortunately very normal that people choose their friends and peers in popularity, in terms of fashion, appearance, attitude, etc., rather than selecting from the criteria lay down by Islam, namely the degree of an individual’s imaan and perception of life. These people as they often look up to are in reality more superficial and aspects that can be meted out in people's knowledge of various fashion creators, pop idols and signs book thickness is in truth nothing more than evidence of the person's ignorance about the meaning of life. Their actions are often neither value for themselves or those who treat them, since these acts are determined by other yardsticks than Halal and Haram.
These individuals include made themselves into slavery by perverse fashion designers and has been chained to a world that only tolerate free thinking when it comes to violation of Islam and Muslims. Tries in such an environment to defend Islam will be immediately placed in box with terrorists, and must now agree to remain silent in order not to be ignored and excluded from the crowd. In contrast to get closer into the circle of the more low-necked transparent and uniform dress is, as well as one's popularity increases, the more you have broken themselves after drinking from sensory and assembly. They sinking lower and lower to a stage which cannot even be compared with the animals.
Therefore, when we choose a close friend, consider the following very carefully: Are these people some who will help us on our way to meet the meaning of life (Islam)? Do they want us success in this life and Jannah in the next? Will they lead us away from the path of Allah? Will they help us to achieve satisfaction of Allah, or are all these things completely indifferent to them.
A true friend and the relationship of a friendship
Allah (swt) says: "Close companions will be the day (judgment day) be each other's enemies, except the sincere" [43:67]
This verse is very important to be aware of in connection with the formation of friendships in Islam. In the verses are not mentioned, that friends will not help each other to come in Jannah on convictions day. On the other hand, it is very clear that friends are not godly, will be each other's enemies at the day. That means that their friendship was not a true friendship, but simply an awareness of each other.
Today it is the friendships are more valuable than the relationship with the family. People are willing to sacrifice everything for his friends. But one need only see a tragedy until we can recognize a true friend. You can try to go to jail for a while (an example!), or come to the hospital, so you will quickly find out how many friends who come and visit. It is also the first here to find out how much value the family and how laudable his love and care is! Here you will recognize the family value and realize who is a true friend. The father as they used to shout at the mother as they ignored and the siblings as they fought with would suddenly be much closer and you will also realize what a true friend is when / if he comes to visit. And that’s why the Prophet praises the visiting of a sick person and promise great rewards. And in Islam is a friend to compare with a "brother" or "sister".
One of the most prevalent and incompatible aspects of a real mumin (a real believer) is his love for his brothers in Islam. It is a love which is completely excluded from secular and similar interests and based solely on Islam. It is a true brother's band, whose authenticity is derived from Islam's guidance. This fraternity has had an enormous effect and it has a resonance in history. Throughout human history, from Adam and Hawa, through the prophets, the last of them Muhammad (saws), to Sahaba and up to now, where Muslims (though far from all) Shows us a unique fraternity between each other, cut off from the material and worldly interests.
This friendship is a fraternal bond, based on the Koran, where Allah says:
"The believers are one brotherhood" [49:10]
It is the strongest bond between the hearts and minds and it comes as no surprise that this bond bears fruit of sublime love. Islam calls it "love for Allah’s Case", and can be seen more clearly in light of the Hadith, which says:
"There are 3 things that will result in a Muslim obtaining Imaans sweetness: If the love of Allah and His messenger (Muhammad) is stronger than to any other; If he loves a person solely for Allah’s matter; And if he hates to return to kufr after Allah has rescued him from it, as much as he would hate to cast on the fire ".
Allah gives the one who loves his brother for Allah’s case, a special gift is certainly larger than anything on earth, which is His love, which is very difficult to achieve.
This is reported in a Hadith, where the prophet tells of a person who visits his friend in another city. Allah sent an angel who was waiting for him. As he crossed the angel (who was disguised as a man) the angel asked him where he was going. The man replied that he would visit a friend who lived in another city. The Angel asked the man about the one he wanted to visit, owed him something, after which the man replied: "No, I love him just for the sake of Allah". After which the angel replied: "I am sent down from Allah, sent to tell you that He loves you, as you love your brother for His (Allah) case".
A friendship between Muslims should never be destroyed simply because of minor discrepancies. Islam never ignores human nature: it recognizes that anger can easily happen in an instant, and in situations which can be quite trivial. But it puts a limit on the length of time an angry outbreak between two friends has lasted for two and forbids Muslims to be enemies in more than 3 days.
Are we angry at each other and have bickered, a true Muslim remove themselves from the wrath and will soon forgive and not bear grudge. In Islam, there is no shame of forgiveness, or be the first to "reopen" a friendship. On the contrary, then seen it as a great deed that will bring one closer to Allah, as Allah says:
".. Those who remove themselves from the anger and forgive, for Allah loves those who perform good deeds" [3:134]
A true Muslim manages his anger by explaining his dissatisfaction. Then he will follow up with forgiveness, without considering possible, revenge. Anger is very difficult to manage, but forgiveness is the way to control this anger and when the person first has forgiven a heavy burden will be removed and Muslims will have peace in his mind. This is called Ihsaan, as a Muslim feel when he has forgiven his brother. Forgiveness is solely for Allah’s case.
Muslims must always appear exemplary and try to be clean interior and exterior. Therefore, he always meets his brothers in a comfortable condition, as it wills thus infection. The Prophet has said the following:
"Do not think small for any good action, even to greet your brother with a smiling face"
Muslims must always be presented in a humble way to his social circle. The Prophet has said that a Muslim is humble status to the following: Allah (by obeying Him in all), His Book (read it, understand it and implement it in life), Prophet (In respect him a lot and fight for his case and follow his sunnah), the Muslim leader (Khulafa ', by helping them in their path to lead the Muslims, and right set them if they were misled) and with each other (by showing compassion towards each other).
That means that we have to be bosom Heart accurate and responsible for each other and do not cheat or give false one another. Humility is very important in Islam and was partly also included in the Muslims' bayah (obedience promise) to the Prophet:
"I gave bayah (obedience promise) to the prophet and promised to perform my Salah, pay zakah and be humble towards any Muslim"
A Muslim is generous and will of his brothers, more than he wants for himself. Generosity in Islam is a special and unique character that elevates Muslims. This characteristic was deeply entrenched in the Followers of the sahaba, as are the stars we must look after.
The Prophet's cousin, Ali (ra) is reported to have said:
"To have a small group of my brothers with me to eat a little food is better for me than to go out on the market to buy a slave and release him"
To have his brothers to visit one's imaan forces and the Islamic environment, which is incredibly important, because it causes Muslims psyche also strengthened, which could lead to much more than that redeem a slave. We know that Ali, like countless other sahaba, to redeem many slaves and that he loved to do it. But the importance of an Islamic environment where the spirit of brotherhood strengthened is much larger and more powerful and cannot liberate a slave, but all mankind.
This fraternity, we could learn a lot from it being something that has been forgotten in a modern and materialistic culture, where many Muslims are more interested in their own wealth and interests and therefore suffer from a spiritual vacuum and feeling cold environment. The results we see now, especially when kufr communities suffering that people are more interested in linking emotional bonds with their dogs and other animals than humans. It is therefore not surprising that we hear about dogs who inherit millions, or that people would rather eat with their pets than with other people. Looking at the daily news that thousands of innocent civilians being killed in Iraq, simply pulling on the shoulders, but an outcry heard when the media mentions that a dog had to starve for days, because of its owner's laziness. These things are the result of a materialistic oriented philosophy, which an individual focus.
Sahaba used to accept their invitation brothers because they saw it as their brothers Haq (right), and their own obligation to accept the invitation. If, for no reason, did not accept the invitation, it was considered as a sin.
This can be seen in the light of the following Hadith:
"We were about to carry out a military campaign (Maritime) at Mu'awiyahs time. Our ship came close to Abu Ayoub al-Ansaris ship. Since it was meal times, we sent him an invitation and he came and said 'you called on me while I fasted and I had no choice other than to answer because I have heard the Prophet saying: "Muslims have 6 responsibilities towards its brother, who greet him with Salaam, accepting his invitation, praising him when he sneezes, visit him when he is sick, visit him during his funeral, and advise him when he wants it.”
A Muslim overlooks his brother’s errors (unless there are actions Haram) and reminds him not of them. A Muslim must not seek the errors of his brother, as it soon will go and have a devastating effect on the bond between them.
One important thing is that Muslims complies with its agreements, which are a direct order from Allah, and not breaking its promises. Unfortunately, there is a tendency among Muslims that agreements are made to be broken. Therefore, there are no problems that come 1-2 hours late for a meeting or invitation, without it being announced. This often leads to trust between friends are broken, since the other party has no interest in waiting for hours out in the cold, or lose lots of resources to make hot food, there still is not eaten right away.
For breaking its promises, then it is considered as a sign of hypocrisy and a Hadith says:
"There are 3 signs of a hypocrite: When he speaks, so he lied; when he makes a promise, he breaks it and when he becomes a trusted, so he is deceiving"
Muslims are also each other's advisers. To have a pure heart regarding his brothers and give them good and humble advice, as Allah says:
".. In addition to those who come to Allah with a pure heart" [26:89]
A good friend will therefore always come up with good alternative solutions which are based on Islam, and his love and care. You cannot share the problems with a kafir (non-Muslims) as to his philosophy is based on kufr and denial of Allah. Therefore, his suggestions and advice always be based on kufr. An example of this is the father who sees his son goes through puberty. The Son has begun to concern itself with the opposite sex. An advice from a kafir to the father will be that he must allow his 16 - year old son to go to discos and "liberate his desires", but that a friend who is mumin and cares about the father and the son, will give him the advice that he must help his son with getting married, such as sharia requiring it.
May Allah make us the guided and pouring our friends and the company only wants us the best (Jannah) and ensure that our peers will be marked by imaan of Allah and not imaan of Shaitan.
Ameen
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